A confident child can grow up to be a successful adult. A child with confidence will find it easier to make friends, join clubs and activities, and transition from primary to high school. A strong self-esteem built from childhood can aid children in completing goals as they get older.
1. Failing a task isn’t the end of the world, and can actually help your children in the long run. Your kids won’t get everything right. Sometimes they’ll get bad grades on their homework or won’t be confident in their reading skills. This is normal, and your children struggling with a problem gives you a chance to show them how to address problems properly. Critical thinking skills are going to aid them in the future, especially if you’re dealing with school work.
2. This might be a problem more frequent in girls, but boys may struggle just as much with their appearance. Remind your children that they don’t have to look like their favourite characters from television or movies. Disney Princesses look the way they look for a reason, and no child should strive to achieve the look of an animated character. You want your children to accept themselves the way they are.
3. Don’t always do everything for them. Kids want to do things on their own sometimes, and while you may feel the need to complete tasks for them, guiding them may be the better option. Let them pack their own bag for school or help in creating meals. Your child will realise that you have faith in them to make some decisions, however small they may be.
4. Encourage their imagination. While literacy and numeracy skills are very much important, creative kids need their needs met too. Allow them to be creative with their imagination. This can be done in simple ways, like providing them with crayons or pencils, letting them write creatively, or take part in dance or acting lessons. Dancing and acting will also build confidence to be in front of a crowd.
5. Listen to them. Reminding your children that you are in fact listening to their concerns will reinforce their self-worth. Listening to them about their school activities or chats with their friends will show you have an interest in them.
6. Try not to compare them to others. Children already compare themselves to their peers and don’t need their parents doing the same. Whether it be with their siblings or classmates, there’s no need to place your child side by side another child. A comparison may make them doubt their sense of worth.
7. Be proud of their achievements. Letting them know you’re proud of their work in school or sports clubs will reinforce the idea of their own value. Getting siblings to display a similar sense of proudness will also help.
8. Children often follow the habits of their parents. Try to display your own self confidence. If you make a mistake, don’t put yourself down, especially in front of your kids. Show them you know how to handle obstacles with confidence.
9. Bring up past achievements. Not only will this show your child you remember previous accomplishments, but reminding them of their past successes will give them a confidence boost, especially if they’re feeling down.
10. Acceptance. It’s important to simply accept your child the way they are. There are of course improvements you can make over time, but remember to recognise your child and their uniqueness. They’re special, and reminders every now and then about this will surely bring a smile to their face.